Love Each Other and Share Common Goals

Ray & Florence Borquez

Married: November 23, 1946

Los Angeles, CA

Ray and Florence remains active in church activities. Although he's technically retired, Ray still enjoys the occasional odd job. Florence considers herself lucky to have a spouse who shares her active outlook on life.

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What Better partnership is there than that of a loving husband and wife striving together to achieve common objectives? And who better to join forces with than the on you love, the person with whom you've chosen to share your deepest hopes, your fondest dreams, your very life?

One of the biggest problems marriages face today is that spouses cling to their own individuality rather than fully entering into their new identity as a couple. They hold on to independence at the expense of the unity God intended, maintaining separate checkbooks, separate pursuits, separate vacations, separate friends. Oftentimes they unknowingly have different vvisions for their marriage and their future.

They Bible says, "Two people can accomplish more than twice as much as one; they get a better return for their labor...A triple-braided cord is not easily broken" (Ecclesiastes 4:9, 12, NLT). Look closely at a length of a rope; there is individuality still present in the strands, but it disappears into the oneness of the cord. What you hold in your hand is a single, strong rope powerful enough to move heavy loads.

God has designed marriage to make the two of you stronger together than you ever were when you were single. As a result, you don't need to be afraid to set big goals. Why don't you and your spouse talk today about what your life together was meant to accomplish?

This explains why man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.

Genesis 2:24 NLT

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So, we've had an amazing weekend. Friday Q had to work late so I took B over to visit Mimi and Pappaw, which he always loves!! Saturday, B had not one, but TWO birthday parties to attend. I love that we are growing up with such fabulous families. B is probably one of the youngest, but boy does he try to hang like he's the oldest.

The last time I wrote I was extremely sad, it's been incredibly hard following Ronan's blog but I don't ever want to forget this sweet soul that I never met. His family is having a service Sunday, low key, Ronan never liked to be the center or attention, so they have invited the public to attend a balloon releasing service at 7:15 Arizona time (8:15 Dallas time) I am planning on picking up a nice Star Wars Balloon to release in his honor. I've never met this boy, but feel so connected through his mothers words. They are such a couragous family to share their journey and can't even imagine nor want to imagine the pain they are going through. Please send a pray out. Sweet Ronan went to Heaven Monday, but he turned 4 here Earth Thursday. Again, the services are Sunday, please keep this family in your prayers and lift a balloon up 8:15 Dallas time if you can.

Grief Stricken

I honestly couldn't tell you the last time I've blogged. Today I blog just to get out emotion. This is a friend of a friend story so I hope not to confuse. A friend of mine a while back changed her Facebook picture to a boy that was not her son and introduced me to her friend's blog, rockstarronan.com. Her friend's son, Ronan, was diagnosed with neurblastoma a rare cancer in children. He was diagnosed last August and since then the family and Ronan fought hard to beat this cancer. Today, this gorgeous blue-eyed 3 year old little boy lost his battle and I can't stop crying. A friend mentioned how they never knew how much you could come to love someone by following them on a blog and I couldn't have put it better myself. I've never met this courageous boy nor his family, but was drawn in to hearing about his life. Yes, I cried with each blog post, but couldn't stop praying and hoping this power of pray would give the miracle this family so desperately wanted. Parent's should NEVER see their children die, God apparently turned away when Jesus was dying on the cross because I suspect it was too hard for him to see and not stop, with this I just don't understand how he could let this happen. I just don't understand, and I don't even know this family, imagine how they are feeling. I've been crying now two hours and I didn't even know him. Trying to console me Quinton said, "we just need to be thankful for what we have and that Brendan is healthy" to which I angrily shot back "what, you don't think these people were thankful for their son and what they had?" He of course said no that's not what he meant by it and I know it, I just feel selfish being thankful for a healthy child and them losing theirs. He was only 3!! Brendan is only 18 months!! I can't even imagine life without him. It's just so scary. Life truly is so fragile and short. I pray that this family can be consoled in their grief always and find some way to carry on. There just are no words....

Take the days one at a time. Soon fifty years will pass- but it won't seem like it.

Al and Evylyn Little

Married: March 3, 1946

Al and Evylyn Little are committed Chirstians. Al works as a chaplain for the Los Angeles County Jails. Evylyn loves spending time with little children.

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A lifelong marriage is built day by day. It is made of days that seem momentous and days that seem mundane. Yet every one is important, every one indispensable. As you and your spouse live out each day to its fullest potential, sharing its joys and challenges, your days steadily join together like the masonry in a sturdy brick home, forming a relationship that is solid and secure. Such a relationship, built on the sure foundation of faith in God and commitment to each other no matter what the days may bring, will stand forever.

Take the days one at a time, but don't take them- or each other- for granted. Make most of each twenty-four hours. Don't allow the past to become an anchor; rather, forgive each other for yesterday's offenses. And don't let worry about the future rob even one day of its joy; instead, put tomorrow in God's hands. When times get tough, continue to love, support, and encourage one another day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute, and trust the Lord to see you through. Before you know it, you and your beloved will be celebrating your golden anniversary- and wondering where the time went!

Oh, satisfy us early with Your mercy,

That we may rejoice and be glad all our days!

Psalm 90:14 NKJV

Parenting

Ok, so as a new parent, I can't judge or know the perfect way to parent at all!! BUT, I have to just vent today about a few things that have happened and there was no parental involvement and totally pissed me off.

Today I took Brendan to the play area at Stonebriar. For the second time now, another kid has come over and pushed Brendan out of the way to play with these wall toys when Brendan is playing with them. I understand kids will be kids, but come on. The first time this happened this little girl came up and pushed Brendan away and he just looked at her and then started to push back. I automatically tell him no pushing why don't we try and share. Well this girl won't share so Brendan starts to push again, so I just pick him up and tell him no pushing and we walk away. As we are walking away the girl's mother was all "he was there first" I just kept walking when I wanted to say, "Yes, I know he was so where were you when your kid was pushing mine out of the way and trying to teach her manners and how to share!!!" Well, today this happened again with a little boy. Brendan was playing with another wall toy and the kid just comes over and pushes him out of the way. I once again try and get them to share but this was a much bigger kid and he pushed again, so I apologized to Brendan that he wasn't playing nice and took him away once again. Seriously, where are the parents in this situation. I know that kids are kids and have to learn to share, but it's the parents that have to reinforce this! It just made me so mad. Come to find the mother is on the total opposite side of the play area talking and can't even see her child!

Also, the other day Brendan is playing with something and this kid came and took the toy away. The mom then said oh child, Brendan was playing with that but let the kid still run off with it and just said sorry to Brendan. Grates my nerves!! I know my son is not perfect in no way at all, but when he takes something from someone, it goes straight back to whoever had it first. Not oh sorry my kid just ran off with your toy. MAKES ME SO ANGRY!!!

Ok, done venting. I feel better.

Never let a day go by without telling each other, "I love you."

Jack and Bernice Wein

Married: February 23, 1946

Jack and Bernice's sense of humor is legendary. "Bernice said if I bought one more car, I'd have to sleep in it," Jack says, grinning. "I told her a man should have more than one bedroom!" "Instead of arguing, let the man think he's the boss," Bernice says with a wink. "Eventually he'll come around to your way of thinking."

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Every spouse has a deep need to feel cherished, valued, treasured. Daily reminders of love and affection will fill your hearts and lift your spirits, nurturing your relationship and causing it to thrive like a lush, well-tended, sunlit garden. And just as a beautiful flower garden harbors many colorful varieties of annuals and perennials, there are countless ways to express love.

A special favor, a helping hand with the chores. A card, a bouquet, a tasty treat. A touch, a hug, an impromptu slow dance. A listening ear, a real conversation. A shared memory, hearty laughter, a walk in the moonlight. A wink, a smile, a compliment. And don't forget to speak those three little words, "I love you!"

Words are powerful. They can build you up individually and strengthen you as a couple. They can encourage you and remind you of your lifelong commitment to each other, of the reasons why you chose to journey through this life together.

"I love you." Poets and songwriters of every age have searched for compelling words to communicate the depth of such emotion, but none has found better way than this simple, heartfelt phrase. It never wears out and it never goes out of style. Take a moment to hold hands, gaze into each other's eyes, and whisper it today.

A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold

in pictures of silver.

Proverbs 25:11 KJV

Turning One Is Fun!!

So my sweet Angel turned ONE on Thursday!! I can't believe how quickly the year went by and how much he has grown. He weighed 7 lbs 13 oz and was 19.75 inches. Today he is 25 lbs 4 oz and 32 1/2 inches tall!! Unbelievable!! Especially for someone who still refuses table food and sticks with jar food! As of today he will eat Puffs, Mum Mums, Cheerios, Tortillas with queso, Tortilla chips, Bean Soup and refried beans (just the mushy part, not the bean) and occasionally I can get him to try a Teddy Graham, string cheese and shredded chicken. I'm getting worried. One of my mommy friends suggested a food therapist. Our Dr. said to give it another 4-6 weeks and if we are still concerned then she'd refer us to a food therapist. I told my mom about this and she said we go to a yuppie doctor. I hate telling her anything!! Time are changing and things are way different from when she raised me. I'm sorry if I'm concerned that my one year old will not eat anything!!!! Anyways, back to his b-day.

When he woke up we sang Happy Birthday to him and then after he was all changed let him open some presents. Played downstairs and ate breakfast. Mommy made him some Banana Molasses Oatmeal. After he had eaten we took him upstairs for his birthday surprise, a new KITCHEN!! He loves it. Loves all the cabinets and things to open and close. After he played for a while we got him ready and took him to Pump It Up, Jr. for the first time. He was a little hesitant at first, but once mom and dad got in with him he loved it. He especially loved going down the big slide with mom and dad. After PIU, it was back home for a nap. After his nap mommy began to start lunch. He likes Mi Cocina refried beans so I decided I'd make some. Well, that didn't go over so well. Guess they weren't up to par with Mi Cocina and he gagged and threw them up on the first bite! So annoying!! After lunch we took him to Yumilicious for some birthday frozen yogurt!! We ran some errands and then ended the night a Mi Cocina for dinner. Hugo and the manager Francisco (Yes, we go there A LOT) arranged for some candle lit flan and sang Happy Birthday to him in Spanish!! It was amazing!! Most perfect day!

Saturday we had his birthday party at Gymboree. It was awesome! He had tons of friends come and celebrate with him. We didn't get to really talk to anyone because we were too busy trying to make sure B was having a good time and Miss Linda had him in the spot light a lot, which I didn't quite know how he'd handle, but he was perfect!! Great first birthday. Glad we went all out for his 1st, next year will most likely have at house since by then all his friends will be walking and can have games and bounce houses. Can't believe I'm already thinking about his next one!! After the party, family came over to open presents.

Sunday we did his smash cake. He didn't quite know what to do so we helped him. He only tried a crumb of cake though! That boy! Next year will be tons of cake eating!!

So that was it. A whole year has gone by! CRAZY!!!